I recently discussed being tired of breastfeeding and how I wished I could be done with the whole thing. Given my daughter was only slightly older than 2 months at the time, I knew I had many more months of boob-time ahead of me, and it seemed like a daunting prospect. Well, after spending quite a bit of time reading other moms’ and bloggers’ experience with it, I guess I’m having a bit of a love affair with breastfeeding these days.
I’m lucky this time around, I won’t deny it. I think the only issue I had with breastfeeding my now-4-month-old daughter was a bit of pain when she was born and we were both getting used to the process. It dissipated after about a week and since then, everything is hunky-dory. My milk came in within 48 hours of Baby Girl’s birth, and production was established about 6 weeks after, right on schedule. No blocked ducts, no infections. Not too much milk, nor too little. Baby Girl has a good latch and now that she’s over the mild digestive issues most newborns have, everything is brilliant. Which is a good thing, because as it turns out, Baby Girl wants absolutely nothing to do with a bottle, even if it is squirting out freshly pumped breastmilk. I tried the other night, hopeful that I could start building a stash of milk in order to leave Baby Girl with Daddy or a willing grandma on the odd occasion. No such luck. Not only did she refuse to suck on the bottle, she even made a big show of spitting out the milk I squirted into her mouth. I swear she was laughing at me when she did it. But, ultimately, it’s not the end of the world. She’ll come around, I’m sure. And in the meantime, it looks like the boobs will just keep at it, producing ounce after ounce of juice.
With my son, breastfeeding was a constant worry. He was such a spirited boy, he couldn’t stand it. He hated being cradled to me and would start screaming the moment we “assumed the position”. I worried about his intake 24/7 and it became clear he was so exasperated with the process, he was actually letting himself go hungry. As his weight began to drop, so did my milk production in that vicious circle breastfeeding moms are too familiar with. So when we finally made the switch when he was 6-months old, it was such a relief that I didn’t care what other moms thought. And anyone who thinks you don’t get to bond as much with a bottle-fed baby as with a breastfed one, well, you’re wrong. Some of my most precious moments with my son were when I could hold him in a position that he was comfortable with, while he played with my hand or my hair as I fed him. Not to mention the bonding time he had with his dad, and the overall psychological and emotional peace I finally got to experience from seeing the comfort and ease with which my son was now feeding.
But with Baby Girl, it’s going great (knock on wood). Despite moments of being exasperated with it all, I’m now starting to experience all the little joys. Her little feet kicking at my arm during her most intense sucking. When she looks up and smiles when she makes eye contact with me, milk dribbling out the side of her mouth as she momentarily breaks her latch. The milk-drunk mini-naps after each feeding. The confidence and pride I feel at being able to give my child this gift. One blogger wrote making milk made her feel like she had a superpower. It’s more than that for me. I remember looking at my little girl – all 7lbs of her – being pulled out of my body and placed on my chest when she was born. I remember thinking “I MADE THAT”. I built every cell of her body. Sure, her dad contributed very key ingredients to the mix, but (no offence, honey) I’m the goddess that took those two initial cells and turned them into this perfect being. And now, I look at her – almost double her birthweight – and I marvel even more. Me. It’s all me. Every additional ounce she has gained is 100% me. My body. My sheer will. I don’t just make milk, I make human. I make perfection. I make fingers and toes, cuter than any you’ve ever seen. I make the red hair that is growing unevenly on top of her head. I make her skin that glows so beautifully, pink and healthy. I make those vocal chords that laugh when we tickle her cheeks. Which I made too, which I keep making every time she latches on.
It’s not bragging. Breastfeeding – whether it’s sustained for only a few days, weeks or months on end – is hard. It’s fucking hard. It’s painful, time-consuming, frustrating. It dictates what you wear, what you do, where and when you do it. It cuts you off from your surroundinsg while you have to sit there – anywhere from 4 to 12 time per day and more – cradling your child to your breast as the world keeps trucking along around, and without, you. So no, reflecting on the little joys of breastfeeding and the pride you feel doing it, is not bragging. It’s simply reminding yourself why you do it. Reminding yourself, in the most difficult moments, that it’s like anything worthwhile in life: something you work hard towards, because the rewards are endless if you know where to look.